When We Realise Our Parents Are Human Too

There comes a point in everyone’s life when the image of our parents — the ones who always seemed to know what’s right — begins to blur.

We start to see the cracks, the hesitation, the choices that didn’t make sense.

And suddenly, the people we once thought were infallible become painfully human.

Part of growing up is realising that parents make some terrible choices too. Sometimes they choose silence when they should have spoken. Sometimes they hold on when they should have let go. And sometimes, they break things they never meant to break — hearts, trust, or even themselves.

But understanding this isn’t about blaming them.

It’s about seeing them as people who were trying — often with limited tools, limited support, and their own unhealed wounds.

Forgiveness, in that sense, isn’t an act of forgetting. It’s an act of release.

When we stop expecting perfection from those who raised us, we start to heal.

And maybe that’s what growing up truly means — learning to love the imperfect, both in them and in ourselves.